I have had sex twice. Once over 10 months ago and once this past weekend. The first time was quick and painless. I didn't bleed and it didn't hurt and I was surprised. The second time was the opposite. He was drunk, so he was having a hard time getting hard while I was really nervous. I noticed some pain when he was fingering me but I thought it was pretty normal. We had trouble actually having sex, it wasn't going in easily. Once it did, I bled everywhere. Like a lot of blood. It hurt really bad to the point where I was almost in tears. He was nice about the bleeding, but I am still mortified and confused. Why did this happen? Is it possible my hymen didn't break the first time? I know it was probably more difficult because he was having issues as well, but we used lube so I don't know why it hurt so much and I bled so much.