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My boyfriend and I have been together since school. Right now we are pursuing graduation from two different colleges. We have constant arguments and brawls but still have not managed to separate. We have been together for 4 years. However, for the past few days I had been sensing a strange distance from his side, until I found out one day that he was virtually having sex with a married woman online. He spoke, video chatted and sex chatted with her even as we were meeting, also making love. It completely broke me. He is sorry for what he has done. He is begging for forgiveness and says that he doesn't want me to forcibly make a decision as to whether to accept him or not, but that he'd be grateful if I did. Can he cheat on me again provided I forgive and accept him right now?
asked Oct 25, 2016 by anonymous
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If u ask me then i would suggest you not to trust him again people who cheat never change and for you? Nah never im saying this from my own personal experience i know how u must be feeling i have already been through this and even still struggling bt still i woukd suggest you dnt give him another chance this is for your own sake he will always take you for granted and he will never change cheaters and change
Bt still its all upto you do as u want bt just keep my words in your mind

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I believe trust is like glass, once shattered cannot be mended. If you forgive him now and accept him, there’s a greater chance he'd do it again. But of course, the decision is up to you.
answered Oct 25, 2016 by Storyteller (210 points)
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Once a cheater always a cheater. If you have been faithful and loyal then you always deserve better. There is no reason to settle for anything less. Someone who loves you truely can never think of cheating on you or can even think of anyone else. And if he has done it once he will do it again just that next time onwards he will be more careful with hiding stuff from you
answered Oct 25, 2016 by Puja
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I feel everyone deserves a second chance. If a person is genuinely sorry about something then he/she should be forgiven.
answered Oct 25, 2016 by anonymous
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No! If he has done it once, he might do it again! I believe this habit is very addictive n tempting; he might again give in to his temptation n his drive! If he really loved you he wouldn't have done it on the first place.
answered Oct 25, 2016 by Sohini Chatterjee
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It depends completely on your boyfriend's mentallity. I feel you should not give him a second chance and dont make the mistake of trusting that person again.
answered Oct 26, 2016 by Titash Maity
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forget about him .. move on
answered Oct 26, 2016 by anonymous
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Well u should forgive the guy but not accept him back .Once a cheater always a cheater.If u take him back he is gonna cheat on u again.So the best u can do is to move on and forget that dude.
answered Oct 26, 2016 by anonymous
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Trust is one of those things that is completely between the people involved. CAN you trust him again? Can you keep yourself from wondering who he is chatting with every time he texts someone?

The question to ask isn't will he do it again, the question is why he did it in the first place. Was he feeling bored? Did he think a little side thing would be ok? Did he think since it was virtual, ot wouldn't 'count'? These are questions I cannot answer, but the answer to these may tell you what kind of behavior you can expect from him in the future

Love and trust are mutually exclusive. You can love someone while still not trusting them. Unfortunately a healthy relationship requires both. Only you know whether you can trust him again.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck!
answered Oct 26, 2016 by B
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I think he knew what he was doing and he was ready for the consequences. You might give him another chance but the future isn't looking to bright being honest. You have your whole life ahead so free yourself from all this emotional abuse and enjoy life.
answered Oct 26, 2016 by ET3RNAL
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Of course not..duh! Once a cheater always a cheater. Besides that he did not give you any reason why did he do that? Because he does not have any. He did that intentionally. Now its your choice,either live happily leaving that douchebag or ready to see complicated days.
answered Oct 26, 2016 by Mandy
As a human being we do mk mistake so think before you do anything
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